Is It All Over For You Or Just The Beginning?

Written by Chaney Weiner

It was the same thing happening day after day with no apparent end in sight.

The same thoughts. The same feelings, The same routine.

And it all centered around being in the type of situations most people would never want to be in.

Even though at times it seemed like there was a new opportunity to finally overcome it, those same voices kept coming up…

“It’s over. It’s over forget about it. I’m afraid. Just get out of here.”

Then a different voice that said…

“No. You cannot. You must not lose to fear.”

And then the first voice responds…

“Yeah well I’m afraid. Alright, what do you want me to do?”

And the second voice responds by saying…

“You stay focused. The best of you is still inside.”

And it was at this moment that a decision needed to be made. Not just any decision, but a life changing decision.

How many times have you found yourself in a situation like this? A situation in a certain area of your life where you had so much fear it felt like you had your hands tied behind your back?

And how many times did you have that little voice telling you to try and stay focused but the fear of the situation won out anyway?

How did this leave you feeling?

Did you feel like it was all over for you? That life as you knew it would continue going down the path you didn’t want…


Just maybe you thought that in some way that this can be a new beginning for you…that somehow your life would change and start going the way you want it to.

FocusWithin1. Focus from within

Yes, we’ve all had that “tug of war” going on in our minds and along with that the “should’s” and “should not’s.” But no matter how you look at it, when these situations come up, it still comes down to the language of “I have to”, “I’m supposed to”, and “I’ve got to.”

And what does this mean?

It means that you’re not doing what is highest on your values…not doing what it is that you’d “love” to be doing, that you’re “inspired” to be doing, and are “blessed” to be doing.

And ultimately this results in you not being able to stay focused.

Because when you’re saying “I love to”, “I’m inspired to”, “This is what I’ve always dreamed of”, you’ll be more focused.

Now what happens if you’re in a situation that you do find yourself saying “I have to”, “I’ve got to”, and “I’m supposed to”… such as let’s say your current job that you can’t stand for example?

Because after, if you’re working a job you don’t like you’ll be having the “Monday morning blues, the Wednesday hump days, the Thank God it’s Friday’s, and the week freaking ends” mentality…

Or in other words you won’t be focused.

So what you do then is to simply ask, “How will this job I can’t stand help me in the areas of life most important to me?”

And then come up with no less than 30 ways of how that job benefits you in your life.

By doing this you’ll give more meaning to your life…and you’ll be more focused, even in situations that you ordinarily would have found to be boring.

But there’s something else very important involved in your ability to stay focused that you’ll deal with everyday for the rest of your life…

SilenceDefeaning2. The silence is deafening

No matter how well focused you are, there will always be the distractions of life trying to creep into your mind and get in your way. Not only that, but those distractions are both positive and negative ones.

Remember, we live in a two sided world and you are a two sided person.

What this means is that no matter what you do there will always be an equal amount of success and failure, happiness and sadness, giving and taking, support and challenge, plus all of the other complimentary pairs of opposites. There is no escaping this.

Why is this important?

Because each side will always be competing for your attention. It’s just like that tug of war that takes place in your mind that I mentioned earlier. And it’s up to you to be able to maintain that balance, or as I like to say, that poised and present state.

This is especially important when you have those situations come up where people are criticizing you, challenging you, and really pushing your buttons in a negative way.

And also remember…

If you want 1000 people liking, supporting, and praising you, then expect 1000 people disliking, challenging, and criticizing you.

Take a look at someone like Oprah Winfrey. She has millions of people who like, support, and praise her for all that she does…but she also has millions of people who dislike, challenge, and criticize her as well.

There is no escaping this and anyone who tells you that this isn’t true in all probability is playing small or is just trying to live a fantasy seeking life of having more support than challenge, more praise than criticism, and so on…you get the idea.

So what it comes down to for you is to 1) know that you’ll get both sides from people no matter what you do, 2) look for the benefits and drawbacks to each side, and 3) know that this is what allows you to reduce the probability of what you don’t want showing up in your life.

Because this will allow you to realize that the silence (within you) is deafening. And as a result you’ll be able to realize that it’s not all over for you…but rather it’s just a new beginning.

LettingSelfGo3. Letting yourself out

Remember that other voice I mentioned earlier that says, “You stay focused. The best of you is still inside.” Well there’s one more part to that. One more thing that little voice tells you and that is…

“It’s time to let yourself out.”

And what this means is that it’s time to show the magnificence and brilliance of who you are and what you do.

But the only way you’ll be able to do this is to remember what I said earlier…

And that is to remain poised and present regardless of whatever else is going on around you in your life…

Because this is what it takes to be a fulfillment driven person.

Along with that it helps you answer the question, “Is it all over for you or just the beginning?”


No matter what is currently going on in your life, you can use that to go from where you are now to where you want to be. This is how you start your new beginning.

It’s not about trying to get rid of your past. It’s not about forgiving yourself or others. It’s not about apologizing for what you did or didn’t do.

It’s about being thankful, grateful, and appreciative of all the people, places, and situations that have been a part of your life.

It’s about taking the time to see that in each blessing there’s been a crisis…as well as seeing in each crisis that there’s been a blessing.

Because when you connect all of the dots in your life you’ll see that everything that happens is there to guide you on realizing how magnificent and brilliant of a person you are.

And once you let yourself out, you’ll see just how true this is and how much you really do matter to others and the world around you.


About the author

Chaney Weiner

Chaney Weiner is a Human Potential Specialist - Founder of the Chaney Institute of Human Potential - Creator of the Breakthrough To Achieve Program and Author of the book, Because This Is Your Life.

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